I don’t know about you, but when I venture out to run my errands and conduct my routine business I run into a lot of other people. Unhappy people. You can see it in their faces.
The tension, the anger, the urgency.
That urgency can be about any number of things. It could be them wondering how they are going to pay the bills, or keep their old car running, or thinking about how unhappy they are in their current relationships. After all, most of the unhappy people I see are in pairs. They are griping at each other, seething with hostility, loathing their very existence, or perhaps their partner’s existence.
It strikes me as odd. Why aren’t there more happy people around?
And then you see someone who is absolutely radiant. Nothing but happiness, smiles, contentment, joy. Peace. Full of life.
What’s going on? What’s the difference?
They’re in love.
And that feeling of joy and happiness simply envelopes those people and it’s contagious. You feel good being in their company. You feel good with just a passing glance. When eyes meet and there is that silent communication that all is wonderful and magical.
Like they are seeing into your own radiant soul.
A few years back, I was getting a bit despondent. My marriage was deteriorating from my now ex’s alcoholism. I was working in a toxic environment and having my work sabotaged. I felt like I was drowning.
And then my daughter gave me a book.
It’s titled: “Love Yourself: Like Your Life Depends On It,” written by Kamal Ravikant.
It’s a very short book. Fifty-nine pages is all. And the author talks about how healing love is. And why we should love ourselves.
After seeing one of his friends and that that friend’s girlfriend together, and how radiant they are, Kamal notes:
“When I get home, before I go inside, I pause and realize something. The love, it doesn’t have to necessarily be for another, does it? Love is an emotion, love is a feeling, love is a way of being. That spring in the step, that smile, that openness, can’t it simply come from loving ourselves?
That stops me. Of course. Here we are, thinking that one needs to be in love with another to shine, to feel free and shout from the rooftops, but the most important person, the most important relationship we’ll ever have is waiting, is craving to be loved truly and deeply.
And here’s the interesting part. When we love ourselves, we naturally shine, we are naturally beautiful. And that draws others to us. Before we know it, they’re loving us and it’s up to us to choose who to share our love with.
Beautiful irony. Fall in love with yourself. Let your love express itself and the world will beat a path to your door to fall in love with you.”
What do you think? Is it that simple?
Will learning to love and accept ourselves, the divine and magical creatures we all are, solve all our problems? Attract the positive into our lives? Give us the strength to conquer any adversity around us?
I think it might.
It can’t hurt, and it didn’t hurt me at the time I read his book. It gave me a different way to look at the world. Like looking at light after it’s wavelengths are scattered by a prism. A mystery solved. A truth revealed.
It’s certainly easy for us to be our own greatest critic. To find fault. Snatch failure out of victory.
What if we learned to truly appreciate ourselves and our own unique talents?
Kamal’s instruction for learning to love ourselves is simple. Repeat the phrase “I love myself” over and over again until we actually believe it. Use it for meditation. Use it as a mantra. Say it in your head when you’re riding on the elevator. Say it out loud on your commute to work.
See yourself in the mirror and smile.
Let your love light shine!
What do you think?
Can you change your world by simply loving yourself?
Photo: The sun rises as I leave a particularly beautiful place. It was a breakout visit for me for sure. It was a trip that broke my own self-imposed shackles and got me out of a stagnant and depressing lifestyle. Leaving that place was not the end of the journey, but rather the beginning. I didn’t leave beauty behind, I carried its vision with me and traveled on to the next magical destination. And there is magic everywhere if we see ourselves as being magical 🙂