By now, I may have worn my readers out with this whole concept of being “woke.” But since the mainstream media focused most all of its attention on this with regard to male gender roles and the need for men to “wake up” and diverge from the patriarchy, I wanted to come back and briefly discuss women in this regard too.
And I do need to bring to this an end. So, I won’t go too far with this post.
I can only glean a sense of what being “woke” may mean for women from what I read and my own interactions with women. And, just like with men, this could mean something different for every woman. The women out there, I’m sure, could provide much greater insight. In fact, the comments I’ve received on the prior posts in this series from women have been very enlightening, and I’m sure you’d find those informative if by chance you missed them.
There are two trails I have converging for this discussion. “Rewilding” and “The Divine Feminine.”
And believe me, there are people already out there trying to claim credit for inventing these concepts and many capitalizing on them on the lecture circuit and with merchandising. It’s the American way, after all . . .
Rewilding is simple, well maybe, because the original definition has to do with restoring natural ecological habitat and fauna. But the term, as terms often are, was adapted, contorted, bent, re-shaped and forged until urban lexicon’s connotation became undoing the negative effects of human domestication at the personal level. Human domestication, of course, is represented by a sedentary lifestyle with social stratification. This is particularly poignant for women as the traditional cultural role for women in society has been one of domestic service, of childbearing and maintaining a household. More broadly, rewilding refers to returning to a more natural, holistic, primitive lifestyle – a lifestyle more in tune with indigenous cultures.
You might say it’s getting in touch with the cave-people inside us. Our natural essence. Others would add a spiritual component.
This might be viewed as a return to that free, unencumbered spirit of youth and vitality. Women authors say it involves eliminating body shame, opening up to sacred sexuality and the life creating force of womanhood, healing the wounds of the patriarchy, and getting back to that second trail, the Divine Feminine, which is said to be connecting “to the part of your consciousness responsible for nurture, intuition, and empathy.”*
You can overlap the two concepts and, perhaps, boil them down to “remembering” the natural, magical, creative self, and reconnecting with your ancient consciousness and intuition.
Ok, the two paths are now one, but how can women do this? Return to their divine wild essence?
Theoretically by totally opening up to their intuitive self, but also by “putting down” (and I do mean euthanizing) those negative qualities that came along with male-controlled socialization and domestication.
In her article, “How to Magnetize a Conscious [woke] Man,” Sabrina Lynn tells us that women need to confront, and eliminate:
- The wicked witch within;
- The manipulative bitch who simply must get her way despite the cost;
- The prostitute who sells herself;
- The unhealed, needy little girl who wants constant reassurance from the outside;
- The destructive wild woman who will tear down an entire city simply because she feels like it;
- The unhealthy mother who treats her man like a little boy vs. her lover; and,
- The years of hiding the parts of herself that aren’t accepted in our society.
Ms. Lynn’s list is a bit on the blunt side, as much as the list of socially regressive traits defining “toxic masculinity” is blunt with regard to men. Those traits include: greed, suppression of emotion, violent domination of women, perpetration of rape culture, homophobia, and misogyny. And I’ll emphasize that I believe the traits or personality types Ms. Lynn identifies are dysfunctional byproducts of male-dictated social roles.
And this is not to say that all women exhibit such traits or that there may also be other unhealthy behaviors that need to be eliminated to evolve into something representing pure womanhood – one free of male influence and dominance.
And I’m going to leave this thought bubble right where it’s at for the moment and the reader can let this sink in and ruminate about what this might all mean to them. You can imagine an idealistic “woke” society of women and men and just what that might look like to you. You might think things are fine the way they are. Or just figure out how you want to live individually without all the chatter out there trying to define and influence us. 🙂
On a personal note: when I meet people, of either sex, I look for something in them that I would call being “genuine.” Being “authentic.” Being a real person, not a programmed robot. Having heart and soul. An open and unbiased mind. Empathy and intuition. Compassion and passion. Being nice.
I look for their essence as a human being, without all the labels and verbiage that people are now using in an attempt to qualify and quantify things. Which I believe actually divides and creates alienation.
And this brings me to a chapter in the Tao Te Ching. Chapter 32, from Stephen Mitchell’s translation states:
The Tao can’t be perceived.
Smaller than an electron,
it contains uncountable galaxies.
If powerful men and women
could remain centered in the Tao,
all things would be in harmony.
The world would become a paradise.
All people would be at peace,
and the law would be written in their hearts.
When you have names and forms,
know that they are provisional.
When you have institutions,
know where their functions should end.
Knowing when to stop,
you can avoid any danger.
All things end in the Tao
as rivers flow into the sea.
Other translations also include the concept that labeling and defining things carries with it the dangerous potential of dividing and excluding.
Once the whole is divided, the parts need names.
There are already enough names.
One must know when to stop.
Knowing when to stop averts trouble.
But men of culture came, with their grades and their distinctions,
As soon as such differences had been devised,
No one knew when to end them.
Though the one who does know the end of all such differences,
Is the sound man.
Over-labeling and attempting to distinguish things creates prejudice and discontent. Being “woke” implies others are inferior because they are not “woke.” Being “divine” or waking up to the divine implies others haven’t. They aren’t as worthy.
Pursuits to define ourselves and reach our true potential and essence are wonderful. But if we began to judge others, and try to hold ourselves out as being superior in some fashion then we have stepped off the true path and have become nothing more than a bigot. Not much of an evolution there.
Photo: Out on the trail yesterday. I’ll use this as the analogy of the trails or paths the post delves upon. The trail is beautiful, and in this case it leads to an overlook at the top of a bluff where you could see some of the flooding of the Missouri River here in the Midwest. Just as knowledge floods the mind . . .
Previous posts in this series include:
*I took this definition of the “Divine Feminine” from the article, “What Does ‘The Divine Feminine’ Mean? It’s So Much More Than A New Age Buzzword,” by Dylan Essertier.
In her discussion, Essertier also lists out a set of beliefs men hold as a lesser form of toxic masculinity. She calls this “benevolent sexism,” which is represented by the ideas that:
- Women should be “put on a pedestal,”
- Women should be cherished and protected by men,
- Men should be willing to sacrifice to provide for women,
- Women are more virtuous than men, and,
- Women are more refined and pure, compared to men.
For a short read on women and rewilding see, “What on Earth is Rewilding,” by Katherine Eden.