As I rose from my slumbers a couple of days ago, I began my usual prodding of myself. “What are you going to do today?” “What will you accomplish?”
I think we’ve all been conditioned to get in this frame of mindlessness. We have to do something “constructive” in order to feel like we have any self-worth.
But who is this “judge” sitting in the back of our minds and where do all of these self-created pressures come from? Why do we have to “accomplish” something and what makes that something “constructive” or “meaningful?”
I decided to give myself permission to take the day off.
Not in the sense of doing nothing, although arguably, there is value in that too sometimes. But I gave myself permission to get off my own back. To kill that self-judging voice in the back of my head.
What happened?
Well, I spent a good part of the day reading, relaxing, enjoying the freedom I gave myself not to attach my entire worth as a person on completing some task. And it felt like a giant weight had been lifted from my shoulders.
So, I carried this state of mind over into a second day. I read, meditated, had coffee with my daughter, took a long hot bath, built a nice fire in the woodstove. And I cranked up the music and danced around the living room 🙂
It was absolutely liberating.
You see, by giving myself permission to quit judging myself, I actually accomplished much more in terms of gaining some peace of mind. Of freeing my spirit. Of capturing some happiness. Of living in the moment.
Happy Holidays to everyone and give yourself permission to be joyous and free!
Crank up the music and dance!
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Photo: Somewhere in Oregon. Open and free. Rolling grasses. Azure blue lakes. Snow-capped mountain peaks. Weightless beauty. Liberation.
Season’s greetings and merry Christmas!! 🙂
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❤🌲☃️ Thank you! And I hope you have a wonderful Holiday! Wishing you the best in the New Year!
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Thank you for your good wishes, have an equally splendid New Year ahead 🙂
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“But who is this “judge” sitting in the back of our minds…” UH, that would be the wife, Holmes. But great post. I’m slowly liberating myself. You? Divorced?
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Thanks ! More and more detached each day. Divorced twice
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Which is exactly why you can read and relax…
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Cranking up that music and dancing……
Enjoy the Season:)
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❤💖💗
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Having been retired for less than four weeks it is liberating to learn:
– you don’t have to eat three meals a day
– you can eat when you want too
– you can go to bed when it suits you
-Reading at midnight is quite acceptable.
Yeah, and all that music and dancing. Woot woo 🙂
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You’ll love it ❤
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Happy Holidays Harold! Wishing you and your family the very best. Enjoy your day!✨
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Same to you Dr. Perry. Best to you and your family !
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Feels like a great day 🙂 happy holidays 🎻🎁🎈
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Same to you and may you have a wonderful new year ❤
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I took a great nap and I found myself guilty of total relaxation! Happy holidays to my WordPress family!
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Merry Christmas !
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I go through very similar processes almost daily and also know its very important to cut yourself a little slack once in a while. Great post and, absolutely on the button! I hope you’re having an enjoyable Christmas, Harold. All the best, Rob 🙏
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Thanks Rob ! It can be challenging at times, to give ourselves a break. I hope you’re having a great Christmas too and best wishes for the New Year 🙂
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Thank you, Harold. And you too! 😉
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Love it!
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I would’ve joined you for a song or two dancing in the living room. 🙂
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That would have been fun 🙂❤🌲
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Wow! This hits the spot! Thanks for sharing your words and your wisdom!
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❤
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