How Personal?

I was having a discussion with one of my blogging friends about a general topic and I illustrated my response with an intentionally vague, and brief, recounting of something that had happened in a past relationship.

My friend encouraged me to write a post about what had happened.

While it is an intriguing idea, and it is an interesting topic, I’m not sure how wise it is to get too personal on one’s blog.  I mean once you put it out there, it will be floating around in cyberspace for a long time.

Even if you’re not giving out names, locations, or other specific identifying information, just how personal should one get on their blogs?

What do you think?


Photo: This is my buddy Taz.  We were best friends for 12 years, but sadly he had a stroke and passed on.  That’s a bit of personal information I don’t mine sharing.  No harm can come from it.  They say all dogs go to heaven 🙂

37 thoughts on “How Personal?”

  1. I think everyone can decide for themselves how personally they want to be on their blog. Personal stories touch me more than anonymous or very general stories. I want to read authentic stories, from authentic people; I want to empathize, I want to read from real life. Real personal stories can be very encouraging or on the other hand very comforting.
    But you’re absolutely right, we always have to be aware that these stories are public on the cyberspace.

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      1. The darker ones show, that life isn’t just sunshine. It can be helpful to read that others don’t do everything perfect. You can encourage each other and you don’t feel like a loser.

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  2. I have found that my most honest writing (and best) comes from sharing my experiences. Now, it does make you vulnerable. People will chastise you for your honesty. They will give very blunt opinions about the subject matter. So you have to decide how much flack you want to get, if telling the story is worth the exposure…
    Oddly, I’m going to rewrite a blog tomorrow, because the first time I write it I wasn’t satisfied with the result. I wasn’t satisfied because I was intentionally leaving something out that I do not want to discuss. But leaving something out made the post seem off, because I didn’t explain my POV properly. It’s a tough call…how personal do we get?

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      1. Here’s the thing about the troubling ones. First off, it depends on the level of troubling. But sometimes, you help others because they e been in same or similar circumstances and they realize they’re not alone. And you feel you’re not alone. And it’s helpful for both, as well as others. And you must be 100% ready to share, because exposing yourself is hard and it’s raw.and of course, it is how you present the situation, how you frame the perspective. Good luck. I understand how difficult a decision this is. But just be true to yourself.

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  3. Bless, Taz. What a beautiful energy. It’s a personal choice, because it’s your blog. I try and keep it real, yet circumspect. If my story starts to dip into judgment, or blame, then I re-write it. Everyone has their own perspective. Xx

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  4. my solution to your puzlle is, and has been, poetry… factual narrative simply cannot do all the things a true but flexible poetic image can. and yet, it preserves a greater degree of privacy. 🙂

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  5. This is truly such a personal thing. I have been exceedingly open about myself and my life’s dramas, so to speak. I’m a firm believer that, once out in the open, a happening, that could have had power over you should it be discovered, dissolves into nothingness! It loses its power!
    There is always the need for diplomacy as far as the ‘other’ or ‘others’ within the happening. However, secrets and fears lose their inherent dread once disclosed. There is even the possibility of humour being an unforeseen outcome…

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  6. More often than not, I enjoy reading personal stories, specially the darker ones. They’re not always something I can relate to but I either learn something new or see life from a different view.

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  7. Regarding Taz.. and all dogs:
    Agnes Sligh Turnbull — ‘Dogs’ lives are too short. Their only fault, really.’

    The how personal is too personal question is a quandary for me as well.

    De-identification is one way I think it could be managed, being vague around details and times.. Although I have also seen the argument that if people wanted writers to be more flattering, they should have been nicer!

    It’s still something I am working out, and although it is early days for me on my blog, I suspect it might be a work in progress.

    I really admire honesty and transparency, but I think there are sometimes subtle differences between the two.

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    1. Good point on the subtle differences. It can be tricky, sometimes I don’t fault a whole person, but specific behavior is egregious. I’ve screwed up plenty of times myself too. Those could be good stories, but maybe a bit embarrassing. Sometimes you can’t tell the whole story, unless you tell the hole story 🙂

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      1. Yep, that’s true. And we all screw up – I use ‘fallible’ in most of my social media ‘about you’ to remind myself that it’s ok, and that mistakes are part of what creates knowledge and experience (and makes for good stories 😅)

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      1. The Dog of my Heart, my ‘Anam Canine’, Shadow, has been sorely missed by both myself and the cats for two years now. They are such a huge part of your life, they leave a huge gap when their time is up.

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  8. I think that some of the best writing can come from being totally honest and transparent, however I also believe that each person can decide how much of their personal life they feel comfortable putting out into the cyber world.

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